In 2017, I took a temporary job with the events team at a local independent bookstore. Our responsibilities mostly consisted of selling books at launch parties and signings around the Boston area. My co-workers and the authors were nice, but I didn’t have too many opportunities to be truly starstruck. The one exception was the singer-songwriter Dar Williams, who had recently published a nonfiction book called
What I Found In A Thousand Towns. I asked her to sign copies for Older Sister, who’d introduced me to Dar’s music, and for our dad; I was even more thrilled when she agreed to take a picture with me after the main event.
Like the Indigo Girls, whom I wrote about in
this entry, Dar Williams was part of the soundtrack of my childhood, even before I knew her name. I still listen to some of my old favorite songs from time to time. I want to list five of the tracks that I consider the most formative, but please keep in mind that I am not a music critic or a music scholar, so I must resort at least once to “it made me feel a thing, just trust me, okay?”
1. “The Babysitter’s Here” (The Honesty Room, 1993)This might have been the first of Dar’s songs that I ever learned, and as a young person who was very lucky to have several amazing older role models who made the prospect of growing up a little less frightening than it would have been otherwise, I related to it in the best way possible.
2. “The Ocean” (Mortal City, 1996)For me, it’s all about the transition from “but the ocean can’t come to this town” to “this town is a song about you.”
3. “Are You Out There” (End of the Summer, 1997)If I wanted to be cheeky, I could say that this song is about parasocial relationships. But in a more abstract way, it’s about the ways that music and other media can help us feel seen and build connections between people who will never speak to each other.
4. “Another Mystery” (The Green World, 2000)I’m also quite fond of “Playing to the Firmament,” which starts this album, but I absolutely love the buoyancy and confidence in both the lyrics and the melody of “Another Mystery,” which closes it out.
5. “The One Who Knows” (The Beauty of the Rain, 2003)This song is about watching the children in our care grow up, and the first time I heard it was at a folk festival alongside my parents, the summer before I started college, so it definitely pushed some emotional buttons. Dar dedicated the performance to adults who work with kids, and play just as important a role in their lives as their parents… sometimes more so. Part of me still wishes that I’d gotten the chance to remind her of that shoutout when I met her in person, because I was pretty sure that that was what I wanted to do with my life.